Therapy for High Achievers in California

We Help Restore Strong Willed, Driven Leaders

If you excel under pressure yet cannot switch off, if you chase the next win while feeling behind, or if control becomes your default when you feel unsafe, you are not broken. Many high achievers learned early that love is earned by performance or that autonomy is maintained through control. These strategies worked once; now they cost too much.

You Don’t Have to Choose Between Success and Wellbeing

If you excel under pressure yet cannot switch off, if you chase the next win while feeling behind, or if control becomes your reflex when you feel exposed, you are not broken. Many high performers learned early that love is earned by achievement or that safety is secured by strength. Those strategies once protected you; now they are costing too much.

Is This You?

  • When stakes rise you take charge; collaboration can feel slow.

  • Vulnerability reads as exposure; intensity steps in to protect.

  • You test people for honesty and loyalty before you trust.

  • You fight for fairness and protect your people, sometimes at a personal cost.

  • You move fast into action and only later notice the impact on others.

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Or Is This You?

  • You scan for what success looks like and become it, even if it costs authenticity.

  • Praise lands for a minute, then you raise the bar again.

  • Busy equals worthy; stillness triggers guilt or anxiety.

  • You edit feelings to stay productive or likable.

  • Relationships get whatever energy is left after meeting goals.

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How Therapy Helps

We regulate first, then prioritize, so performance flows from steadiness, not panic. Our work follows two complementary growth tracks that many high achievers recognize.

Track A: From Armored Power to Tender Strength

  • Invulnerability to Softness: Identify protective reflexes; allow appropriate vulnerability in safe contexts.

  • Control to Openness: Experiment with yielding where trust is warranted; let others impact you without losing yourself.

  • Force to Calibrated Power: Match intensity to what is needed; protect without overpowering.

Track B: From Proving Presence

  • Doing to Being: Practice brief periods of non-doing; let worth and identity decouple from output.

  • Emotional Efficiency to Emotional Honesty: Notice feelings before editing them for usefulness; speak plainly without managing impressions.

  • External Validation to Inherent Worth: Build an internal standard; evaluate days by alignment with values, not applause.

We translate these tracks into small, repeatable reps: a boundary script, a recovery ritual, a presence practice before a high stakes meeting, a debrief that favors truth over spin.

Results clients often notice

  • Fewer sprint/collapse cycles; more consistent connection and delivery

  • Clearer priorities and routines you can maintain

  • Assertiveness without domination; empathy without self erasure

  • Self respect that is not tied to perfect days or public wins

What sessions look like

We weave body-based regulation, parts work, and attachment repair. Each session ends with one small experiment that fits your context, for example a values check before committing, a calibration/coming home before difficult conversations, or a restful pause that interrupts compulsive doing. We keep what works and discard what doesn't.

Your first step, and what to expect next

  1. Free 20 minute consult: name what is hard right now, get clear next steps, and see if we are a good fit.

  2. First few sessions: we stabilize, start mapping your protect-and-perform cycle, set one or two goals, and leave with a small plans to test between sessions.

  3. Weekly or biweekly: run tiny experiments, refine systems and scripts, and track wins that matter.

Who We Specialize in Supporting

Executives and founders, physicians and attorneys, solopreneurs, sales leaders, creatives and academics, endurance athletes, and mission driven professionals seeking impact without self sacrifice.

FAQs

Do I need a specific framework for this to work
No. We use whatever language helps you recognize your patterns and move toward steadier presence.

Is therapy online anywhere in California
Yes. Sessions are virtual for adults located anywhere in California at the time of the session. If there are emergencies outside of California, there may be exceptions made for “continuity of care.”

Can therapy support my leadership goals
Absolutely. We turn emotional insight into practical performance: deep work blocks, recovery practices, attuned power, and values-aligned decisions.

How is this different from executive coaching
We address the emotional drivers under performance, including shame, fear, anger, and attachment pattern drivers, so change is long-lasting.

Ready to lead without self sacrifice

Book a free 30 minute consultation to start building systems that protect your attention, energy, and relationships.

Prefer email or phone Contact me and we will find a time that works

ryan@cyclesoflifecounseling.com

julianne@cyclesoflifecounseling.com